Parents often forget they are the example and must provide the education their children receive, at least in part. Other adults, children, and their teachers are also examples. Failing to provide proper examples for your children to learn from can hinder their intelligence level.
A young boy was in fourth grade. He had a teacher who truly knew her stuff—for special needs children. She did not know how to teach regular students. Instead, of staying on the curriculum, she spent half a year on one concept that her students already understood. This teacher was not a great example for those students or the young boy.
A young girl was in school being taught American History. The teacher was a fountain of information. It was clear this teacher knew a great deal. However, other students in the class were disruptive and there was nothing she could do to stop these children. She could not discipline them by sending them out to detention or making sure they remained quiet during the lessons. While a great teacher with the potential to help the student learn, she was also not a very good example of asking for respect and proper manners in her class. Of course, school rules prohibited this teacher from certain discipline options, but not establishing respect on day one was also a fault of this teacher.
As the parent, you have to provide the right environments and examples for your child. Yes, sometimes a learning experience is seeing what not to do, but until your child reaches an age of full understanding about “what not to do,” you want the best examples around your child.
Doing Smart Things
In front of your children, allow them to witness you doing smart things. Children will always learn by modeling adult’s behavior, whether it is your own or someone else in their life. Children are more likely to watch and attach themselves to someone who is nurturing, will to talk to them about adult concepts, and explain things in a manner they understand.
It can take time to discover how to phrase something, but your body language, patience, and your behavior will do more to help you raise an intelligent child than not doing anything at all.
When children see their parents engaged in reading books, making music, writing, or other creative things, they are going to imitate you and gain intelligence.
A part of modeling good behavior is also choosing correct TV shows to watch for your children. Your children are going to see things on TV that they may wish to emulate. You have to make certain they are seeing things you want them to emulate.
For example, if you say to your child “you can watch anything on these specific channels,” your child may find shows that are not age appropriate. Disney, Nickelodeon, and other child based channels run programs for all ages. Some shows are more teen related, so a five-year-old watching the shows may not understand everything, but they will start to emulate the behavior. This can lead to troubling situations in your household.
What you elect to watch while they are in the room can also have an impact on your children. If you put on one of the many cop shows designed for adults, your child may grow up scared of all the murder and death, or they may get a thirst for it.
It is ten times better to watch educational programs when your children are in the room. Don’t let the channel stick on Disney and other children’s channels. Put on PBS shows, turn on Saturday morning TV with nature shows, run the Sunday Morning program on CBS. Watch Discovery, TLC, and other learning channels when they show age appropriate content.
Sit down and make Wheel of Fortune and Jeopardy a part of the “every” night routine. These educational programs not only build a desire to learn the answers and try to answer what your child knows, but it shows that you are interested in increasing your intelligence.
Jeopardy is usually adult based, with hard questions. However, there are also children’s tournaments that can help you show your child that if they work hard enough, they can also answer the questions like the kids on TV.
Hard Work Leads to Improvement
Show your child that they can improve with practice and hard work, by doing this yourself. If something is hard, work on it in front of your child, and show them you are slowly improving. It helps your child to not give up in the face of adversity.
A study was conducted that showed teaching 7th graders that intelligence is not fixed, but malleable resulted in an upward trajectory of math grades in junior high school. Intelligence is definitely not fixed. It can be improved through hard work. Yes, for some it is going to take more work than for others. Naturally, some things come easy for certain children.
A child prodigy, playing the violin is a wonder and they were born with that talent. However, it does not mean another child, through discipline, practice, and hard work won’t be able to reach the same potential.
Your child’s mindset and your own mindset are going to determine whether your child succeeds and if their intelligence level increases.
Cutting out Bad Influences
It is never fun to have to remove some individuals from your child’s life because their influence is not appropriate. Whether it is another adult or a child, you have to make the determination of who can be a part of your child’s life.
Some children are bullies and bring out horrible behavior in your child. They see it in their friend and believe it is acceptable. You can give your child the benefit of the doubt, ask them to stop using poor behavior, and then if nothing changes, make sure the child is not playing with the bully anymore.
You have the right to put a stop to behavior you do not like by limiting those examples.